Family discipleship doesn’t happen in one big moment. It is built over time, one brick at a time.
In this episode, Ben Borgman joins Dallas and Martha Harvey for a practical conversation about how parents can disciple their kids through the ordinary moments they already have. From car rides and dinner tables to mornings, bedtime, and even bath time, they explore how everyday life can become an opportunity to point our kids toward Jesus.
They also unpack four simple building blocks of family worship: Read, Teach, Sing, and Pray. The goal isn’t to create a perfect routine or add another complicated program to your calendar. It’s to faithfully use the moments God has already given you.
The conversation gets especially practical as they talk about protecting your family’s calendar and creating a home where faith is more than something that happens on Sunday. What our kids see us prioritize in our time, conversations, and habits teaches them what we actually value.
Dallas and Martha also share about WITH Families and WITH Kits, a practical resource designed to help families spend time with God, with His Word, and with each other.
And through the story of The Three Little Pigs, they land on the picture that captures the whole conversation: a brick house isn’t built in an afternoon. Strong foundations are built through small, faithful investments over time.
Overview:
- 00:00 Practical family discipleship methods
- 04:56 Disciple-making as a parent
- 09:26 Recognizing God’s Work in Daily Life
- 12:40 Reflecting on personal growth journey
- 13:55 Encouraging Kids’ Spiritual Curiosity
- 18:45 Bedtime talks with kids
- 21:48 Discipling toddlers during bath time
- 25:13 Equipping parents for discipleship
- 28:26 Singing and Worship at Home
- 31:24 Modeling prayer for children
- 34:39 Building a Strong Family Foundation
- 37:09 Parenting and children’s choices
- 41:47 The coloring box for families
- 46:00 Family devotional activities overview
- 47:52 Chick-fil-A conversation kits features
- 50:38 Creating family-friendly kits
- 54:04 Closing remarks and resources
Discussion Questions:
- What are some practical ways your family has intentionally built this “brick house” of faith?
- Which of everyday, ordinary moments (meals, car rides, bedtime) do you find most natural for spiritual conversations, and why?
- What are some specific challenges you have faced in your family, and how have you tried to overcome them?
- How does the value Gen Alpha places on their parents’ perspectives shape the way you approach conversations on moral and cultural issues with your own children or youth?
- What are some other simple questions or prompts like “Where did you see God today?” during meals you’ve found effective for sparking faith conversations?
- Share about a time when something didn’t go as planned in your family’s spiritual routine and what you learned.
- What kinds of tools or resources has your family, group, or church found helpful in making disciple-making simple and sustainable?
- In your experience, how have consistent small actions produced spiritual growth over time?
- What encouragement or strategies would you offer to families who don’t have “ideal” circumstances for family worship (such as single-parent homes or homes with spiritual disunity)?
- How do the priorities you model at home or in your ministry affect those around you, and what changes might you want to make?
