In this episode of the Disciple-Making Leader Podcast, Ben Borgman, Craig Etheredge, and JT Thornton tackle one of the most hidden and destructive struggles impacting the church today: pornography. Drawing from research, pastoral experience, and personal testimony, this conversation addresses the reality of pornography among pastors, ministry leaders, students, and church members — and why silence only strengthens the problem.
The discussion explores the neurological, emotional, spiritual, and relational effects of pornography, while also pointing listeners toward hope, healing, accountability, and practical ways to fight temptation. From guarding your heart and renewing your mind to understanding personal tendencies and building accountability, this episode challenges leaders to stop fighting in isolation and start pursuing freedom in Christ.
Topics Covered
- Pornography in the church and ministry leadership
- The “silent epidemic” affecting pastors and students
- Neurological and spiritual effects of pornography
- Shame, secrecy, and isolation
- Accountability and confession
- Guarding your heart through God’s Word
- Renewing the mind and spiritual transformation
- Knowing your vulnerabilities and tendencies
- Practical safeguards for pastors and leaders
- Fighting temptation with intentionality and community
Overview:
- 00:00 Discussing cultural shift and challenges
- 03:43 Effects of Pornography on the Brain
- 06:43 Early exposure and normalization
- 10:46 Dealing with tech and porn addiction
- 13:54 Seeking wisdom through faith
- 18:07 Discussing love and religious expression
- 18:59 Focusing on eternal relationship with God
- 25:09 Guarding against personal temptations
- 27:27 Staying accountable as a pastor
- 31:48 Choosing an accountability partner
- 32:48 Impacts of moral compromises
Discussion Questions:
- What factors contribute to the “silent epidemic” of pornography in the local church?
- How has the accessibility of pornography changed over time, particularly with advances in technology?
- How does spiritual transformation play a role in the brain’s ability to heal from addictive behaviors like pornography use?
- Why is confession identified as a crucial first step in overcoming pornography addiction?
- What is the “principle of displacement” and how can focusing on godly desires help combat unhealthy ones?
- How does shame impact the struggle with pornography, and what steps can be taken to bring this issue into the light?
- What practical strategies were shared in the episode for pastors (or anyone) to guard their hearts and set up offensive and defensive measures against temptation?
- In what situations or seasons do the speakers say individuals are most vulnerable to temptation (such as being hungry, tired, alone, or after a major ministry event)?
- What role do accountability partners and open conversations play in overcoming pornography?
- How can bringing sin into the light and involving loved ones (even spouses) be difficult yet necessary steps in the process of healing?
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